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Can Good Parents Have Bad Kids?

Your child is suppose to be a reflection of you. I'm just wondering how can I be considered a good parent and my child constantly is acting bad.  I'm strict by most people's standards with my house rules, cleaniness, chores and schoolwork. I'm also lenient by some people's standards...if it seems you're doing your best I'll ease up and give you some priviledges. My kids are by no stretch of the imagination....struggling or deprived. They've always had plenty of what they need and too much of what they want..... but me and her father also knew when to say 'no'. They know all the rules, they know what we expect, they know what we simply will not tolerate..... but one of them has to challenge that. Constantly. Consistently. We tighten the belt....things return to normal - one could even say better than normal....beyond expectations. But just you wait.......BAM! She hits you with something that tops the last action and you're left scratching your head like WTF happened. Each incident something different, beyond the last incident. Surely she knew cursing out the teacher was wrong, surely she knew skipping school was wrong, surely she knew disobeying a direct order from the principle was wrong, surely she knew having company in the house with no parents was wrong..... a bad parent never would have taught that right from wrong. Right? A good parent discusses these things with the child, what's wrong with these things, how you're expected to avoid these things, life lessons..... When did my description go from good to bad? When my child reflected me to others. Surely her mother must not care enough to teach her right? Surely she is missing something at home, right? Me being a good parent may just be an illusion.

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