Awww remember when you first met? Remember that teenage giddy feeling...remember how you felt when he first said he loved you or vice versa.... but what if you can no longer remember why you're there in the first place, if it's just not working, how can you stay together? Truly. How? I’m seeing this situation in two very close friends of mine and it makes me look at my own situation and evaluate that I’m in a relationship for the right reasons.
Your partner does not have to be abusing you or neglecting you or doing or not doing anything in particular. Relationships end. I realize this is NOT the fairy tale we’re made to believe as a growing princess but relationships are hard work, right? I don’t know if I buy that.... love shouldn’t be hard work, love shouldn’t be painful.... and if it is then it’s time to re-evaluate. And when you know it’s over, you are wasting yourself and your time, not to mention your partner and his time when you stick around instead of exposing it for what it is.
So what does it means that so many people choose to stay in relationships that are, for all intents and purposes over or, at the very least, unhappy. What does it say about us that we'd rather be miserable than alone?
Women like to be secure. That's HUGE, I think. We like to know where our next meal will come from and that someone will be at home when we get there. But sometimes the relationship that you are clinging to for security is likely doing you more harm than good.
Is it sucking up your time and energy? Do you keep thinking about breaking up? Are you even to the point of thinking about other people? Are you figuring how being apart will work? Are you thinking of who you’ll sit and relax and watch a movie with on rainy Sundays? Are you already trying to figure if you can handle the household finances on your own? That kind of thinking does nothing but zap you of energy.
If you’re at that point in your relationship, it’s time to let go and live your own life..... Do anything other than wonder, what if? But if you evaluate and in the end know that you still want the relationship, then release the negative thinking against your partner, make every conscience effort you can to live in harmony. You cannot change your partner...if he can’t recognize your willingness to nurture your relationship and you keep questioning the relationship, at least you would have given it your best. There’s nothing wrong with walking away.....never tell yourself that you’ve been wasting your time with someone....every relationship whether it ended bad or not...taught us something about ourselves... strengthened out character....so ladies....follow your heart.
Your partner does not have to be abusing you or neglecting you or doing or not doing anything in particular. Relationships end. I realize this is NOT the fairy tale we’re made to believe as a growing princess but relationships are hard work, right? I don’t know if I buy that.... love shouldn’t be hard work, love shouldn’t be painful.... and if it is then it’s time to re-evaluate. And when you know it’s over, you are wasting yourself and your time, not to mention your partner and his time when you stick around instead of exposing it for what it is.
So what does it means that so many people choose to stay in relationships that are, for all intents and purposes over or, at the very least, unhappy. What does it say about us that we'd rather be miserable than alone?
Women like to be secure. That's HUGE, I think. We like to know where our next meal will come from and that someone will be at home when we get there. But sometimes the relationship that you are clinging to for security is likely doing you more harm than good.
Is it sucking up your time and energy? Do you keep thinking about breaking up? Are you even to the point of thinking about other people? Are you figuring how being apart will work? Are you thinking of who you’ll sit and relax and watch a movie with on rainy Sundays? Are you already trying to figure if you can handle the household finances on your own? That kind of thinking does nothing but zap you of energy.
If you’re at that point in your relationship, it’s time to let go and live your own life..... Do anything other than wonder, what if? But if you evaluate and in the end know that you still want the relationship, then release the negative thinking against your partner, make every conscience effort you can to live in harmony. You cannot change your partner...if he can’t recognize your willingness to nurture your relationship and you keep questioning the relationship, at least you would have given it your best. There’s nothing wrong with walking away.....never tell yourself that you’ve been wasting your time with someone....every relationship whether it ended bad or not...taught us something about ourselves... strengthened out character....so ladies....follow your heart.
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