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From Fro to Puffs to twists....

Why is it we're never satisfied with the hair we're born with. Nappy head girls want that "good hair"... Curly head girls wish they had straight hair. Straight head girls would die for a head full of pretty curls. Well I got a good little mixture going on with my head. I've been rocking my "natural state" for about 3 years now. I was a crack-perm addict. Thought there was no other way to be. One day got up and decided I didn't want a perm, just wanted to wash and go.....soooo I whacked it off. And been sporting it that way every since. I allowed my hair to do what it do. I didn't fight it like some people say. When it was boyish short, I shampoo'd every morning and it would get the cutest soft curl so I would moisturize and go. Then as it got a little longer I would still shampoo every morning but by midday I had a TWA (teeny weeny afro) ...so I worked it...started wearing little headbands and the short fro. It grew a little more, and I would

Gray Areas...

I'm experiencing "grey areas" in my life right now. Yes I am still separated and not divorced. Yes I still technically have a live-in boyfriend and a husband. And yes they both want to be a major part of my life. And unfortunately, I want to be a part of both of their lives but realize that can't happen. Initial sparks wear out and reality sets in..... just in my case sparks can go on a long time usually after sexual and emotional connections have gotten way too deep.  Right now I'm taking the time to redefine love in my life. Love means something different to each person. I realize in talking to different friends on a day-to-day basis...that we all view relationships differently.  Some women think that as long as he's a provider, they can put up with anything. To me money is not everything, what about the desire to be in your partner's presence?  What about having that indescribable feeling when you get that hug at the end of the day? What about looking f